RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES- PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL. -PART II

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We have already referred to some aspects on 'Relationship . In this second part let's further see the impact of Cultural forces on 'Relationships'. In fact, the cultural forces act both on personal and impersonal relationships. Building and maintaining relationships will not only make you more engaged and committed to your organization it can also open doors to key projects, career advancements and many other new opportunities.

It is advisable to use the following strategies to build good 'Working Relationships' with your colleagues.:

1. Develop your people skills.

2.Identify your relationship needs.

3.Schedule time to relationship.

4. Focus on Emotional Intelligence.

5. Appreciate others.

6. Be Positive.

7. Manage your boundaries.

8. Avoid Gossiping.

9. Listen Actively. 

Stable relationships tend to remain stable, but through time will incline towards repetitive behaviors and co-existence of the persons involved in relationships i.e participants. Let us consider a case of personal relationship: Initially a man and a woman develop a highly personal caring relationship. As they spend more time together the relation 'converges', and and the personal stake that each feels in the relationship increases. At the time of marriage and during the honeymoon phase they are at peak intensity, interdependent phase. As time goes by and each become more familiar with the other, the relationship stabilizes as a warm personal marriage of sharing and co-operation.

       If the marriage partners are not innovative in keeping their relationship on a personal basis, it becomes more and more 'Impersonal' until in many cases they can be said on to be sharing the same residence. Further they reach a highly repetitive impersonal co-existence phase that may go on indefinitely unless it is disrupted and goes into competition, withdrawal or combat. Then the relationship re stabilizes at the same or lower level of commitment or deteriorate through competition or withdrawal. if the individuals want to increase their personal involvement, then they  must apply deliberate strategies converging to happen and develop new relationship. 

 The above application is though for the personal relationships it is also applicable to professional relationships. As we have to deal with various hierarchical persons in the organizations, it is almost or as if we have got married to them.

Let us now see what are the deliberate 'Converging' strategies that we need to apply recover from Diverging state to the Converging state:

1. Awareness of Process: Individuals who are involved in a relationship should be aware of the process of that relationship. This requires them to learn about their relationship in general and acquire the conceptual framework and vocabulary for monitoring the progress of their own relationship.
2. Allocation of Time: At-least some time should be devoted in maintaining the relationship and meeting the individual needs of the participants. Although those needs may not directly be a part of the relationship, they must be dealt with in order for the individuals to continue in relationship.
3. Communication Skills: Many times verbal language provides more opportunities for misunderstandings that for understanding. On the other side many things are important to a relationship cannot be verbalized at all. It is obvious that individuals should develop skills in both verbal and non-verbal communication.into wide range of subjects that will be relevant to the relationship-such as emotion, feelings, thoughts, ideas, belief, suspicions, fears, and apprehensions.
4. Options for behaviors and Feelings:  It is important to understand that any extended relationship between people, places numerous demands on their behavior and feelings. In order to respond to these situations, the individuals/ participants need to develop range of options in the behavior and feelings. If for instance an individual A establishes a normal pattern of keeping an understanding with 'B' and if 'B' takes an advantage of the friendship from'A" and if this happens repetitively through B when A is true, then an established anger may lead to the loss of the option to keep an 　　understanding.
5. Willingness to Risk:  During 'Safe and Satisfactory' relationships can lead to improving the benefits of the relationship for the participants, but it requires their willingness to take emotional risks. They must be willing and able to trust each other and to expose themselves to anger, fear, joy and even rejection. The best part is deeper understanding and more rewarding relationships.

In totality Relationships have to handled delicately whether Professional or Personal..

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RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES- PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL.

RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES- PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL. -PART I

Dear friends I am presenting this exclusive article article to acknowledge 'Relations'  both professional and Personal. It would be interesting to know that how to maintain relationship, extend relations and even rejuvenate the disrupted relations.rejuvenate relations  that have or had parted.

Relations-

A typical definition of relation has been vividly described, the dictionary defines relation as a person connected by blood or in marriage.

Whatever is the definition, relation ultimately leads to " Relationship".

Well, the dictionary defines "Relationship" as the state of being connected by blood or marriage. 

BASIC FACTORS TO MAINTAIN PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIPS-

• Loving self- This is the initial aspect considerable to love human beings. One must love self to love others.
• Trust or Faith - This may seem obvious, but so many people are with partners they don't trust or keep faith.
• Honesty- This is the Vital ingredient to continue relationships.
• Communication- Clear transparent communication with partners, participants and agreeable to self.
• Connection- Staying connected directly or indirectly leads to fairness in relationships.

 In order to maintain healthy relationships various concepts have been discussed and defined. The concepts are referred to as " Stable, Convergence"concepts, and are the part of "Relationship Strategies. Also known as Convergence Strategy Models. The convergence strategy models leads to establish, maintain and improve relationships. We shall also focus on the model of Walt-Boshear and Karl Albretcht relationship models in short which deals with concept of relationship-motions.

The concept of relationships strategy describes the forms of relationship viz - 

Stable Relationship, Converging or Diverging relationships.

Stable, Converging or Diverging Relationships-

Stable Relationships- 

In a stable relationship, two persons reach a conscious or unconscious agreement regarding the ways in which they will relate to each other, They avoid any behavior that will change the relationships. On the other hand, relationships that are in a state of change can in turn lead to become either 'Diverged  or Converged.

Converging and Diverging Relationships-

The converging relationship changes in such a manner that it enhances the benefits of the relationships to the persons involved into relations.

 The Diverging relationships however, changes in such a way that it tends to destroy the relationship or detracts from its benefits to the participants.

Let us now compare and understand the values and the essence of 'personal' and  'Impersonal' relationships. In fact it may be Stable, Converging or Diverging relationship they can be predominantly personal or predominantly impersonal.

At the 'Personal' extreme- The ego involvement of the participants- Their attitudes, beliefs, and feelings are an integral part of the of the relationship. On the other hand, emotional and personal issues are not considered in 'Impersonal ' relationships and will be disruptive to relationships if  they arise. 

 It is interesting to know that while an individual is growing up and passes through different phases of growth, then individuals are also influenced by 'Western Culture' and are pushed into the direction of 'Impersonal Stable Relationship'.  From Birth to Adolescence individuals cast in the roles of dependency and inadequacy. They are surrounded by people who, by virtue of their age and experience, are better able to cope with their environment. and who have been placed in the position of authority by cultural traditions of the society. They are strongly encouraged to refrain from making any emotional attachments except those that are approved by the society, such as courtship, marriage and friendship. In addition to the forces of culture that guide the individual in establishing and maintaining relationship with people, there are forces of time and exposure. The human intellectual and emotional system is highly adaptive and it tends towards stability. Experiences that initially may provoke a strong intellectual or emotional response will when sustained or repeated, will tend to elicit a lesser response.

Dear Friends I am closing the first part of this topic.I will continue with the Second Part shortly. 

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Girish T. Kulkarni,

CEO- Real Minds.Com

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