ABOUT INTERFERENCE & INTERVENE.

Today whilst I was going through the newspaper, I read about a phrase on "Interference", 
The phrase is " The most important thing to do in your life is not to interfere with somebody else's life". However, there are many such phrases on interference.  The point is whether to interfere into someone's life or not? The answer to this is "NO. One should understand the difference between "Intervene" and "Interference" which is not taken into consideration by many. Remember interference is generally undesired but intervening may be desired depending on the need of the needy.

 Many times interference is undesired and can cause serious repercussions and can damage a system or even an individual. Interference is often an unwanted noise and obviously not appreciated. An important observation is that 'interference ' irritates and may add to ambiguity in consistency of work, can also lead to suspicions, it can spoil the rhythm of the the system and spoil the harmony of the work culture. 

I have come across people, who in the process of helping their loved ones cross the border line of helping and start interfering instead of helping the needy, this becomes a matter of pain to the needy then. 

I have also noticed people interfering in their loved ones or favorable ones to help them in changing their destiny which in turn becomes a problem to the needy or the system. 

Does Interference has any 'positive' side of it? Very very rarely 'Yes', remember the undesired interferences can be eliminated by introducing the 'desired interference' especially for making or implementing policies, used in diplomacies.

Intervening: 

This may be helpful in leading to avoid mal-consequences, or influences in happenings. Intervening is not hazardous unless it is restricted towards maintaining positive results. The intervener has to be honest, and lawful. Intervening is also beneficial and may be mandatory to resolve critical issues which cannot be settled between parties easily. 

In corporate management overall, the goals of crisis resolution via intervening are to prevent violence in the short term, and in the long term, to assist the victim's return to normal cognitive, emotional and behavioral functioning and avoid crisis recurrence.

To conclude Intervening is by choice and interference cannot be chosen it is enforced, hence interference is undesirable and when is chosen becomes desirable 'Intervene' . 

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 NEGOTIATIONS & NEGOTIATING SKILLS:

Dear readers we have all some or the other time faced a situation where we had a need to negotiate or will have a need to negotiate whether it be a job, home, market or a deal. Negotiations are means of solution to critical situations.

 Let us try to understand what is ‘Negotiation’ and the skills related to develop negotiation. The dictionary meaning of ‘negotiation’ is “the discussion at which people try to decide or agree on a common issue”.  Generally, to avoid ‘negotiations getting converted in hot arguments or unnecessary debates a line of control is required to needs to exist. It is expected that all negotiations should end with a “ Win-Win” situation.

We have different windows where a situation for ‘negotiation’ may arise, for example there could be a ‘Business negotiation, Crisis negotiation, Deal making negotiation, leadership negotiation, Job position negotiation, or Salary negotiation’. Professional Negotiations do not just take place easily, in fact several rounds of discussions may be required to lead to a ‘Win-Win’ situation. Specific forms of negotiation are used in many situations. Internal affairs, the legal system, government, industrial disputes or domestic relationships as examples. However, general negotiation skills can be learned and applied in the wide range of activities. Negotiations can help a lot to handle and manage critical or drastic situations.

Let us see as to what are the important aspects that are needed for ‘negotiations’:

1)    PREPARATION:

 It is essentially important to decide the place, time and people before the discussions for the meeting. This stage involves all the existing facts of the situation are known in order to clarify your own position. This may also include to understand the rules and policies of your organization whereby you can refer in preparation for the negotiation.

2)    DISCUSSION:

Here, every individual from either side will be participating in the discussion and will put forward their case according to their understanding and perspectives, and will try to understand the situation. The important points during the discussions to be kept in mind are “ Questioning, Listening, and Clarifying”. It is extremely important to listen as when disagreement takes place. It’s easy to make mistake on saying too much and listen too little.

3)    UNDERSTANDING AND CLARIFYING GOALS:

From discussions the objectives, interests and views of both side’s disagreement need to be understood and clarified. Clarification is an essential part of the negotiation process without misunderstanding so as to produce a fruitful outcome.

4)    NEGOTIATE FOR EQUAL WIN STATE: (WIN-WIN SITUATION)
This is a situation where both the parties feel that they haven’t lost anything or rather gained something. It means both parties feel that their views have been considered. Although this situation is not very often, but has substantial consideration.

5)    AGREEMENT:

At this point of time both the parties have agreed on a situation and totally satisfied, then this has to be recorded as in terms of minutes of the meeting and has to mutually exchange their copies of agreements duly signed.

6)    IMPLEMENTATION:

Implementation follows after agreement so as to implement the decision into action with prior permission of the concerned authorities.

FAILURE TO NEGOTIATION:

Now, in case the negotiations fail after disagreement then the discussion process becomes stagnant and will obviously have no results. In such a case a ‘re-scheduling’ of the meeting should be confirmed. This will avoid hot discussions and endless unproductive arguments. Rescheduling of meeting will also save time and will have fresh mind to take the negotiation ahead and to look ahead for alternative solutions

In every negotiation three elements are important, viz, ‘Attitude, Knowledge and Interpersonal Skills’.

Many a times when ‘Formal Negotiations’ do not work ‘Informal Negotiations’ can be tried.

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"SUCCESS RELATIVE OR REAL"

"SUCCESS" -  RELATIVE OR REAL"

 Dear Readers, it has been a long time to have written the blog. Today I came across an inhouse unending debate about "Success", finally it ended in hot exchanges and obviously without result as to who was successful than whom. We all know that there is no scale to measure success. Some define success in terms of acheivements, some in terms of money, some in terms of peace and some in work & satisfaction & even a good married life.

Well, as we know there is no certain definition for success. From this article let us try to make an analysis to understand the 'traits of success .' What then 'Success is? 'Success can be interpreted as the 'achievement' of one's chief goal or aim'.

The quality prone 'path to success' generally should be having the following features:

1) To be desirous about an objective or an 'aim'. That is, to be passionate. Psychologists suggest that if you want to full fill your aim in life you need to write down as to what you intend to acheive as 'aim' & read it every night before you go to bed. You need to practically " Pray" in deeds, such that" I will render the best service at my command, and that I will alwaus endeavour to deliver the best regardless of the pay that I receive. In fact in your mind you actually need to sign your prayer as an agreement. 

The slogan should be " YOUR WORLD IS DETERMINED BY YOUR DOMINANT DESIRES"

2) "Self Confidence"- We all need someone to believe in us, once they start believing then, it means to have got converted in to their 'trust' for you. The chain between 'beliefe and trust ' is very lengthy and have to cross many milestones. To gain 'self confidence' you have to believe yourself first. You have to subconciously put into your mind that "You are the most important person in the whole world." Within"you" have all the ingredients of a successful person. You have to also subconciously believe that 'you' have all the talents that will take you to the desitination of your goals. 'You' also need to build up your own motivational power. Remember that : Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good by fearing to attempt.

3) INITIATIVE: Taking initiative is an effective to prove yourself and build your self confidence. Let's understand what is "initiative"? Well, 'Initiative is to perform or to do a 'right' thing without being told- says Elbert Hubbard. I will give an example to this. There was an employee who use to offer an helping hand to his collegues for which he was not being paid, obviously after completing his own job. One day the owner of the company saw him helping his collegue, When it was a salary day this employee found that his pay was hiked, the employee was surprised instead of being happy. He went to the owner and asked him about this. The owner simply told this employee that he took such initiative which was a valuable contribution to his company. Thus, such 'initiative'is a valuable part of any man's tool-kit.

4) IMAGINATION: It is 'The Father' or let's say 'The Mother' of "Creation." If there are no imaginations there would have also been no inventions. In fact if according to you if someone of your inspirtation is a 'successful person' then he must have spent sometime in imagining something. Therefore if you will use imagination in your work you be bound to get ahead. Remeber: "No man can become a power in his community or achieve enduring success until he becoes big enouth to blame himself for his own mistakes and failures.

5) Enthusiasm: Another path to success is 'Enthusiasm'. Everyone not only appreciates a cheerful person but also likes an ethusiasitic person. He has an ability to change the atmosphere in office as well as at home. Whatever may come an enthusiastic person faces it cheerfully and gets along with problems easlily. Only thing is important to observe the thin line between 'enthusiasm and over enthusiasm'. In professional careers enthusiastic persons are promoted faster. It is also noticed that people who work with enthusiasm are always best in their jobs and get the highest pay.

6) ACTION: To 'act' wisely, and in the right manner in any situation that you have to face is actually a process which can take you to fruitful acion should take You to the path of success. Many times in our personal and professional life we do not realize situations which come on us, also we do not empathetically look at people who have put us in whatever situation. Once we understand this, our perfection leads to 'action' which generally does not go wrong and takes us to a path of success. Our action in regards has to be as a 'win-win' situation.

7) SELF-CONTROL: 'Self control' is actually to train our mind and soul to remain patient in abnormal situations. Therefore, this protects and prevents us from performing any action that will cause disaster to our own or one's career's, name and fame. In professional or even personal or both lives, a person who can withstand criticism and abuse without losing faith in or respect for his fellowmen always seem to have a dignified self control. Theodore Roosevelt quotes" I never won without hard labor and the exercise of my best judgement and careful planning and working long in advance. I had to train myself painfully and laboriously, not merely as regards my body,but as regards my soul and spirit . 

To develop self control one must acquire the habit of forgiving those who annoy and arouse to your anger. Intolerence and selfishness make very bad humans for self-control. Remember 'Anger is the state of Insanity'. A well balanced person is a person who is slow to anger and who remains cool and calculating in his procedure. He reamains calm and deliberate in all conditions.

8) ATTRACTIVE PERSONALITY: The 'extrovert' and the 'introvert' personality has a vital importance in the 'Path of Success, it has many classified traits. Making your personality attractive is a collective effort to build your character. Your professional personality should be such that to make yourself so valuable to the employer that he will want to keep you and pay myself in proportion to the quality and quantity of work that 'I' perform. After all 'personality' does matter in the existance of professional and personal existance.

9) THOUGHT: Your 'thoughts needs to be specific or accurate to your objectives. To achieve fame or accumulate a big fortune requires the cooperation of your fellowmen. Achievements do come through accurate thoughts. Your thoughts are servants of your own will. You are the master in your own house, and you can entertain whatever guests of thoughts you please. A Human moulds himself by his thoughts, just as a sculptor moulds clay. Transparent thoughts lead to a clear destination. Sometimes your thoughts may 'sound' others funny and may laugh at you, take your own self seriously. The mob always makes a fun and laughs to what it does not understand, the mob finds it ridiculous what cannot comprehend. The thing that matters is what you think in yourself, and believe in yourself and not what others feel about you or your thoughts.

10) CONCENTRATION: A magnifying glass can burn a piece of paper, when the rays of the sun are focused through it on one point. The fire could only be ignited, when the sun’s rays were concentrated on a small point. When the magnifying glass was moved too far away, or too close to the paper, the rays were not focused enough, and nothing happened. When you focus your mind, you conserve your energies and do not dissipate them on irrelevant thoughts or activities. This is why, developing concentration is vital for anyone aspiring to be more efficient and take charge of his or her life. Practice concentration through correct techniques.

11) LEARNING FROM FAILURES: When something is being tried or is risked then the logic of success and failure applies. Most of them congratulate for your success, however there will be very few to stant to your for your failures. Remeber, there is no permanent failure. Failures teach us to become tolerant and persistent. Failures should be treated even as eye openers in order to achieve the 'Path of Success'.There is a great lesson from failure though time being we may not know about it. If you have faced repeated failures, then instead of going down be sure that you will have a strong evidence that you will rise again to much much higher heights in your chosen work. However introspection towards the cause or causes of failures is mandatory and has to be systematically studied.

Dear reader, these are some of the important aspects twhich will lead You towards 'Success'. I personally feel that success is relative and differs from person to person.

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HANDLING LIFE REGRETS-EXPERIENCES DO SPEAK.

HOW TO HANDLE LIFE REGRETS:

“The past is a great place and I don’t want to erase it or to regret it, but I don’t want to be its prisoner either”- MIKE JAGGER.

We all have had regrets in our life and may be that we will continue to have them further in our ongoing life tenure.  We do come across people around us and even ourselves, that we carry regrets throughout and repent, or carry guilt for a long time. However some people who are egoistic in nature and seem to feel that they never go wrong, they never or hardly feel the regret. Such people have all the reasons to convince themselves and try to make happier situation around them, they are normally in the feeling of “Virtual Satisfaction”. These people obviously carry a bigger ‘guilt’ of their acts and reactions but show around to be satisfied. Acceptance to regrets and letting them free silently is an applauding & appreciable situation.

So let’s see what regret actually means? Well, ‘Regret is a self-directed emotional reaction. It can be a complicated feeling to process because it is multi pronged. It results into sorrow, disappointment , anger and guilt.

We should always be thoughtful towards the causes of regrets.

 Some common causes of regrets can be listed:

1)      Not making amends. Sometimes we need to let go of ‘toxic people in our lives.

2)      Unaccomplished goals: Not all items of the bucket-list that you make can be fulfilled. Many people have fallen in the trap & have regrets of having not achieved their dreams. The matter of comparison, like I should have whatever he or she has is also an element leading tio 'regret'.

3)      Words left Unsaid: We are so often afraid to speak our minds,  to tell people how we feel or  to say. We carry a fear of something like relationship trash or a relation drift.

4)      Working ‘Too Much’: Now this has to be explained a little long. Keeping phones in our pockets means keeping yourselves available or accessible , making it difficult than ever to mentally clock out at the end of the day. Even if your job brings you genuine you-oh really does it?..And you tend to overwork yourself, at some point you will probably regret not having carved out  more free time to explore the other things you liked and loved to do.

5)      Worrying too much about what others feel: Everyone struggles with the self consciousness in a different way, and it takes a long time to overcome. Now, think really as to how much time do you actually spend in analyzing others and judging their decision? I don’t think you do it much, and they too are not much concerned on analyzing you a millionth as much as you are doing it to yourself is it not? So stop worrying about what others feel about you.

6)      Not following Own’s passion: In this workaholic society most of us are not encouraged to follow our passions. The workaholic society really believes that having a good conventional job routed 9 to 5, loving a spouse, adorable children and a large home. Remember doing what you love to do does not mean quitting your job or something like this. It simply means that you should at-least do something that you love to do, it’s that simple.

7)      Taking life too seriously: It is true that we carry stresses throughout our life some way or the other. See that you don’t ‘Sweat with little things and the stressors’ as they wont be so very big as you may have imagined to have been. So just see that you learn to laugh and keep yourself happy in stressful situations. The solution in this occasion would be achieved faster.

OVERCOMING REGRETS:  Overcoming regrets is an ideology that needs to be practiced or implemented in day to day life and workflow. Recognizing what bothers you the most about your past choices is the first step in embracing them as a catalyst for change. 

Another important view to overcome regrets FOLLOW"IT'S NEVER TOO LATE" concept, you will come across so many entrepreneurs, celebrities, sportsmen & distinguished people who have switched their career paths in their later life. It means don't make yourself feel different or the first one for such situations.

Taking an action is one of the idea to overcome regrets. In case if, we are working in an mismatched career then it's important to switch at earlies. Many people assume and keep a mindset that they can never change their career. In case if your planning for a career change or shift then, a research is to be done, such as how credentials are required? How competitive is the industry? Is this career better in track or synchronism with your talents? Does the career support your values and ideas and styles?

The important aspect of 'regret' also relates with their ' finances' people tend to adjust their lifestyles to their income levels and spend accordingly. If you believe that saving was something you did with extra money, it didn't take too long to realize that the 'two words' did not generally belong together. In case if you have a feeling that you do not have enough savings is your biggest regrets, you are not the only one to be so. The remedy is to create a budget, and include savings as a mandatory expense.

Stepping out of Your Comfort Zone- Many times the life's biggest 'regrets' are the direct result of staying in your comfort zone. As the life's circumstances change, we at times dont really know how good we had it until we don't have it any more. That's an absolute to land in 'regret'.

Pursuing Hobbies: Try and imagine all your hobbies that you enjoyed and that now you would like to pursue all your hobbies now. Most of the people use their spare time in watching TV playing video games on their androids etc. However you spend time on a creative hobby like music, art & craft, writing or reading, thus utilizing time on such hobbies is obviously giving 'mental space', secondly this will also boost your skills as well isn't it?

In fact, with the big life's regrets will give us an opportunity to to provide us time for introspection & will give us valuable insights in order to become a human that you deserve to and the life that you want to live.

Dear friends, life has become more anxious during this Covid period, we all have an opportunity to overcome regrets and make a better destiny for ourselves.

I would appreciate your views and comments 

Thanks a lot

.Girish. Kulkarni

CEO-REAL MINDS.COM

Virtual Office: realminds@hotmail.com

Cell- +91-9890331683.

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WHY DO EMPLOYEES QUIT JOBS??

Dear friends it has been long that nothing on the blog has been engraved. My guilt has erupted today and,  I became quite impatient to write this article, as I was the victim of the curses given by my family members, relatives and well-wishers over quitting jobs. I then justified this with a feeling that why do people praise or appreciate at other girls or women in spite that they are living a happy go married life with their "Own rather than their respective wives.  This was pretty good to be self justified. I was then  fully convinced and stopped to think over this. But then what made me serious to write this article was that employees like me in would be perhaps be benefited by this who want to quit or change or hop over the job.

I had a courage to ask myself at the age of my sixties first, and then to at-least twenty people like those who had quit or changed their jobs. I was very much eager to learn from them. They had enough reasons to describe their inability to continue with their organization. Some of the reasons were really convincing but many were not.  But one thing was verified for all those who wanted to quit the decision was never easy. I also spoke with many company directors, human resource personals, they too had several reasons with them; again some justified but some unjustified. However when I observed that in some organizations employees leave or quit frequently, then there is something wrong with the organization. This is also true with the employee of course in case of some exceptions.I could draw several conclusions from the analysis that I made. Let's follow the list below: 

1. Incorrect selection of the candidate for the position which he is selected for- The organizations should not pounce on me for this. Many times the requirements of the organization do not match with the potential of the company, yet the candidate is selected as the need of an hour.
2. Lack or lag of communication between the employee and the employer, as there are many hierarchies in between.
3. Lack of trust from the organization end, especially High performing employees do not need the level of oversight in the environment in which they are working.  In fact such employees need a liberalized way of working and trust in his work. Good employees are reluctant to work in environments in which their leaders do not trust on them.
4.  If employees are not appreciated or rewarded for their good exclusive work they think of switching into another job and therefore may think to quit. In fact this lack of appreciation can be anything like not considering them meritorious, being unpaid for what has been committed to them, not receiving a positive feedback from their senior management. Even when the suggestions are frequently neglected. I had an experience quite few years back, that a talented sales person who had given a pretty good sale which contributed to the company's growth to almost 25 percent was not promised his huge share, and the company finally ended up by giving him just 10 percent of raise, for which he was unhappy, his probation period had just ended and was due for conformation. He was determined to quit..
5. It is important to recognize the talent of the employee in time. The employer should understand his skills and talent and engage him with the development of the company. It is the responsibility of the company to offer a talented and a skilled person with a salary hike, bonus and extra benefits and liberty to work.
6. Good employees will quit if their contribution is not recognized in the organization.
7. Lack of Respect is another important expectation of a sincere and a hardworking employee. Respect means how they are treated in the companies by their managers and co-workers. If their abilities and quality of work is not respected the employees will leave.
8. A good talented employee may leave if there are no further promotional or growth in the company. It could be difficult for the companies who have developed steadily to handle employees who intend rapid growth matching their speed.and capabilities. Such employees are career oriented and want to develop fast and they always want to keep pace with time and technology.
9. If you want to keep your people — especially your stars — it’s time to pay more attention to how you design their work. Most companies design jobs and then slot people into them. Our best managers sometimes do the opposite: When they find talented people, they’re open to creating jobs around them.
10. People leave jobs, and it’s up to managers to design jobs that are too good to leave. Great bosses set up shields — they protect their employees from toxicity. They also open doors to meaningful tasks and learning opportunities — they enable their people to be energized by their projects, to perform at their best, and to move forward professionally without taking steps backward at home.
11.  Excessive stress, high hours of work and lack of facilities will encourage the employee to surely quit the company. The employer must be matured enough to understand the work culture of the country in which his or her company is set up. The management of the company is responsible to keep their employees in stress free set up.

Friends there could be so many more reasons to quit the jobs, yet it is also a responsible task for the employee to understand the drawbacks and advantages of that company before quitting  Though it is the choice of the employee to leave the company he should also remember that he keeps a good morality towards the organization in which he is working or worked for.

Thanks a lot My dear readers for having spared their valuable time to read this article. Your comments and views are welcomed.

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RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES- PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL. -PART II

Dear Friends, Thanks a lot for the splendid response to Part I of this article.

We have already referred to some aspects on 'Relationship . In this second part let's further see the impact of Cultural forces on 'Relationships'. In fact, the cultural forces act both on personal and impersonal relationships. Building and maintaining relationships will not only make you more engaged and committed to your organization it can also open doors to key projects, career advancements and many other new opportunities.

It is advisable to use the following strategies to build good 'Working Relationships' with your colleagues.:

1. Develop your people skills.

2.Identify your relationship needs.

3.Schedule time to relationship.

4. Focus on Emotional Intelligence.

5. Appreciate others.

6. Be Positive.

7. Manage your boundaries.

8. Avoid Gossiping.

9. Listen Actively. 

Stable relationships tend to remain stable, but through time will incline towards repetitive behaviors and co-existence of the persons involved in relationships i.e participants. Let us consider a case of personal relationship: Initially a man and a woman develop a highly personal caring relationship. As they spend more time together the relation 'converges', and and the personal stake that each feels in the relationship increases. At the time of marriage and during the honeymoon phase they are at peak intensity, interdependent phase. As time goes by and each become more familiar with the other, the relationship stabilizes as a warm personal marriage of sharing and co-operation.

       If the marriage partners are not innovative in keeping their relationship on a personal basis, it becomes more and more 'Impersonal' until in many cases they can be said on to be sharing the same residence. Further they reach a highly repetitive impersonal co-existence phase that may go on indefinitely unless it is disrupted and goes into competition, withdrawal or combat. Then the relationship re stabilizes at the same or lower level of commitment or deteriorate through competition or withdrawal. if the individuals want to increase their personal involvement, then they  must apply deliberate strategies converging to happen and develop new relationship. 

 The above application is though for the personal relationships it is also applicable to professional relationships. As we have to deal with various hierarchical persons in the organizations, it is almost or as if we have got married to them.

Let us now see what are the deliberate 'Converging' strategies that we need to apply recover from Diverging state to the Converging state:

1. Awareness of Process: Individuals who are involved in a relationship should be aware of the process of that relationship. This requires them to learn about their relationship in general and acquire the conceptual framework and vocabulary for monitoring the progress of their own relationship.
2. Allocation of Time: At-least some time should be devoted in maintaining the relationship and meeting the individual needs of the participants. Although those needs may not directly be a part of the relationship, they must be dealt with in order for the individuals to continue in relationship.
3. Communication Skills: Many times verbal language provides more opportunities for misunderstandings that for understanding. On the other side many things are important to a relationship cannot be verbalized at all. It is obvious that individuals should develop skills in both verbal and non-verbal communication.into wide range of subjects that will be relevant to the relationship-such as emotion, feelings, thoughts, ideas, belief, suspicions, fears, and apprehensions.
4. Options for behaviors and Feelings:  It is important to understand that any extended relationship between people, places numerous demands on their behavior and feelings. In order to respond to these situations, the individuals/ participants need to develop range of options in the behavior and feelings. If for instance an individual A establishes a normal pattern of keeping an understanding with 'B' and if 'B' takes an advantage of the friendship from'A" and if this happens repetitively through B when A is true, then an established anger may lead to the loss of the option to keep an 　　understanding.
5. Willingness to Risk:  During 'Safe and Satisfactory' relationships can lead to improving the benefits of the relationship for the participants, but it requires their willingness to take emotional risks. They must be willing and able to trust each other and to expose themselves to anger, fear, joy and even rejection. The best part is deeper understanding and more rewarding relationships.

In totality Relationships have to handled delicately whether Professional or Personal..

Thanks a lot friends for being a part With Real Minds.Com especially towards this article.

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My special thanks to Mr. Albrecht.

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RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES- PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL.

RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES- PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL. -PART I

Dear friends I am presenting this exclusive article article to acknowledge 'Relations'  both professional and Personal. It would be interesting to know that how to maintain relationship, extend relations and even rejuvenate the disrupted relations.rejuvenate relations  that have or had parted.

Relations-

A typical definition of relation has been vividly described, the dictionary defines relation as a person connected by blood or in marriage.

Whatever is the definition, relation ultimately leads to " Relationship".

Well, the dictionary defines "Relationship" as the state of being connected by blood or marriage. 

BASIC FACTORS TO MAINTAIN PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIPS-

• Loving self- This is the initial aspect considerable to love human beings. One must love self to love others.
• Trust or Faith - This may seem obvious, but so many people are with partners they don't trust or keep faith.
• Honesty- This is the Vital ingredient to continue relationships.
• Communication- Clear transparent communication with partners, participants and agreeable to self.
• Connection- Staying connected directly or indirectly leads to fairness in relationships.

 In order to maintain healthy relationships various concepts have been discussed and defined. The concepts are referred to as " Stable, Convergence"concepts, and are the part of "Relationship Strategies. Also known as Convergence Strategy Models. The convergence strategy models leads to establish, maintain and improve relationships. We shall also focus on the model of Walt-Boshear and Karl Albretcht relationship models in short which deals with concept of relationship-motions.

The concept of relationships strategy describes the forms of relationship viz - 

Stable Relationship, Converging or Diverging relationships.

Stable, Converging or Diverging Relationships-

Stable Relationships- 

In a stable relationship, two persons reach a conscious or unconscious agreement regarding the ways in which they will relate to each other, They avoid any behavior that will change the relationships. On the other hand, relationships that are in a state of change can in turn lead to become either 'Diverged  or Converged.

Converging and Diverging Relationships-

The converging relationship changes in such a manner that it enhances the benefits of the relationships to the persons involved into relations.

 The Diverging relationships however, changes in such a way that it tends to destroy the relationship or detracts from its benefits to the participants.

Let us now compare and understand the values and the essence of 'personal' and  'Impersonal' relationships. In fact it may be Stable, Converging or Diverging relationship they can be predominantly personal or predominantly impersonal.

At the 'Personal' extreme- The ego involvement of the participants- Their attitudes, beliefs, and feelings are an integral part of the of the relationship. On the other hand, emotional and personal issues are not considered in 'Impersonal ' relationships and will be disruptive to relationships if  they arise. 

 It is interesting to know that while an individual is growing up and passes through different phases of growth, then individuals are also influenced by 'Western Culture' and are pushed into the direction of 'Impersonal Stable Relationship'.  From Birth to Adolescence individuals cast in the roles of dependency and inadequacy. They are surrounded by people who, by virtue of their age and experience, are better able to cope with their environment. and who have been placed in the position of authority by cultural traditions of the society. They are strongly encouraged to refrain from making any emotional attachments except those that are approved by the society, such as courtship, marriage and friendship. In addition to the forces of culture that guide the individual in establishing and maintaining relationship with people, there are forces of time and exposure. The human intellectual and emotional system is highly adaptive and it tends towards stability. Experiences that initially may provoke a strong intellectual or emotional response will when sustained or repeated, will tend to elicit a lesser response.

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